AUGUST 2009 – AUGUST 2010…what a year it’s been.

Today marks 1 year since our favorite pizza place in Knoxville opened it’s doors.  In fact, I can hardly believe that we were there…on opening day, last year and later penned this happy review.  Today, we returned to our beloved Hard Knox for an anniversary celebration of a business that beat the odds and opened during the great recession.  We are still in love with their pizza, the people who own it and work there and we are honored to bring friends and guests to our foodie-home in K-town.  While dining on the luscious Sweet Pea pie tonight, it occurred to me that this “year around the sun” was actually a game-changer year for the Jim and I.  Looking back, I’m just so happy to look forward.

Let’s review…

A year ago today, August 8th, 2009, we met Dean and Jill the proprietors of Hard Knox and developed a love affair with wood-fired, privately-owned, kick-ass pizza.  We gradually became regulars and had the genuine pleasure of getting to know these marvelous people.  In fact, I respect them both (and a lot of their terrific staff), so much that one day, I hope to cook for them…just to return the favor for all the delicious meals they’ve made me this year.  I learned that more whole-food based food could be luscious and not grainy and loaded with sprouts.  Now, they’re a weekly ritual and a staple in my diet.

Then in September, I had the fall that pretty much made me realize that I needed to do what I love.  On September 20th, I penned this note to my friends and family via the book of Face:

“In case any of you, my friends have been reading my posts since Thursday, I wanted to fill you in on what’s going on with me and my health. It’s not glamorous, and it sucks.  I was on a business trip in South Carolina when on Thursday night, I stepped into the hotel room shower and slipped bringing my left hip and lower back slamming at full force onto the side of the tub as the rest of me hit the bathroom floor. I was 4 inches away from hitting my head on the toilet which would have knocked me out completely. I haven’t broke anything but I have done some level of damage to either my muscles, ligaments, or nerves in my back/left side of my butt. You’d think with having a big butt you’d have better cushioning?!

When I am completely still, I feel okay. When I try to move there is a searing and sharp pain in my back/butt that renders me immobile. I have to wait for whatever it is, spasms or something to stop before I can try to move again. Will have to see my PCP on Monday and hopefully we can schedule and MRI to figure out what’s causing the severe pain. The hospital in SC did nothing, just xrays and on your way. In Knoxville, at least they gave me a stronger pain killer (cause the one they gave me in SC did nothing to affect the pain), so I have pain killer, muscle relaxer (works almost nil), and now lidocain patches to try to numb the area. In the end, it sucks. I never ever imagined this happening and I’m pretty pissed off about it. I don’t do well just sitting still and not be able to get up and go without a major production. Jim has been a doll and has taken care of a lot for me. He’s been a blessing.

So here I am, sitting still and hating every minute of it. I mean, I got stuff to do!!!! And patience is certainly not one of my virtues. So, that’s the news…it sucks but hopefully I will be on the mend soon. At least I pray I will. All your well wishes and prayers are appreciated, I just want my life and body to go back to normal. That’s all.”

As my body began to heal I made a silent promise to myself that if I could walk without pain, I’d finally go back to dancing and I’d devote myself to the art form I love the best.  After pain medication followed by physical therapy, I was determined to find a home to teach and put some momentum behind my dream.  Then one day, while at Hard Knox, I picked up a Metro-Pulse and found an advertisement for a new dance studio in my extended neighborhood. The day I was released from PT, I made the call and I met Cynthia Turnage who was open to help me make my dreams come true.   On November 2nd, 2009, I penned this note:

“If you’re receiving this note, it’s because you’re a dear friend of mine and you’re local. Ladies, I hope you’ll consider taking a class each week:

Monday Nights from 6:00 PM – 7:00 PM
Beginning 11/9/09

SIZEMOLOGY: Dancing So Good, It’s Ground Shaking!

Dancing is good for EVERY body! My goal and mission is simple – offer dance classes in lyrically-rooted jazz, hip-hop, Broadway and ballet/contemporary styles taught by a larger-sized dance instructor (ME!). Focus on size acceptance (no matter what your size from small to large), and create a safe environment that makes every person feel energized, artistic and creative. Most importantly, help others who may not be a size 2 feel stunning and confident within their skin as they learn to love the art of dance; as I have for over 25 years.

Having a plus size dance instructor not only increases awareness of potential body limitations and concerns; but it helps to increase students confidence levels right from the start. Plus, it may lead to some pounds lost and that’s just an amazing side bonus!

Come right after work, dance your — off and be home in time for whatever the evening holds!

Taught By: Anna Rogers (ME!!!!)
$10.00 per class (payable on each class night – deals coming soon!)
@ Broadway Academy of Performing Arts and Event Center
706 Broadway
Knoxville, TN 37917
Parking behind, entry behind – old warehouse renovated inside and just granted revitalization grant to develop the exterior.

PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD! IT’S A NEW STUDIO IN TOWN AND I WANT IT TO SUCCEED!
Email me for more details and to let me know if you’re considering coming out and shaking your groove thing each Monday with me! This is a dream come true for me to really start teaching again here in my adult hometown of Knoxville. Call if you want too – I’m just giddy beyond belief!”

I started teaching with my core group of friends who were so gracious in supporting my dreams and I thank Allison, Heather, Laura and all the people who came out that first month to shake it with me.  Without you, I don’t know if I would have kept going when the going went tough.

In December, I decided to finally change my life so I could do more with my dancing and hopefully live life beyond the age of 58 when my beloved Mother decided to “check out” (I miss her every single day).  So, I penned this missive on 12/27/10 on OpenSalon:

“Countdown to starting over, yet again. Seriously, I have restarted so many times that I’d have to own a champagne making facility in order to keep up with the Christening demands.  Alas, as I prepare to make some large changes in 2010, I recognize that one of the first steps in changing is to acknowledge who we are…right now.  I think I learned that in Psych 101 or Counseling Principals.  So what is my reality and do I really need to look at it, in order to change it?  Okay…fine.

Recently a friend of a friend, who’s met me twice and doesn’t know me well enough yet pointed out to primary friend that I, “keep people at a distance”.  Ummm…perceptive buggar aren’t you?  Yes, I do.  I think I do it because it feels safer than letting people get too close and it prevents the risk of feeling let-down later.  Perhaps I do it because I don’t like myself enough to think other people will like me?  To be honest, I’m not sure where that trend comes from but hopefully I’ll figure that out.  I hate that I’m in my mid-thirties trying to figure out the roots of two fundamental flaws in my life: connection and commitment; but I have to try…as much as it hurts and as hard as it will be to try to change my own tune.

Part of my reality is that I am mostly just trying to find my niche in this life.  After all, where does anyone truly “fit in” in this overexposed world (she queries as she’s blogging – ahem).  I’m not sure.  Does anyone out there really feel like they “fit” somewhere?  How did you get there and does it involve any magic spell or instant solution pill?  If so, I’m willing to plonk some money down to get it.  However, the traveling medicine shows have stopped coming to town…they’re only around during the early morning or late nights and involve loud screaming people on TV who want to covince you that a Snuggie will solve your problems or the ab-rocker will truly rock your world.

Back to the reality at hand. Unfortunately, I am a woman of extremes.  I am often all or nothing when it comes to myself, my likes and my relationships.  I am excessive, and I pretend that I am trying to find balance.  Truth is, that when I like something, I like it a little too much.  When I was younger, I used to live by the motto: “If it’s worth doing, it’s worth overdoing.”  My interests are varied, yet I pretend they run along a common theme (if you can find it).  I’m married.  I’m a Mum to four-legged furkids only and am fearful that I won’t ever become a real Mum.  I’m selfish sometimes, but I’d give away the house if I thought it would bring people closer to me.  At times I feel like a 35 year old enigma.

So, why am I here?  Well, I’m a dancer at heart, but I’m a bit too “fluffy” to have made any profession of it.  I’m a fat girl, and no matter how much weight I lose, I’ll still be descended from German roots and will have to learn to cope with having curves.  At this point, I vacillate between trying to embrace my thickness while occasionally launching an all-out assault against it.  At this point I know that I weigh over 300 pounds (gasp – did I really put that down).  While I don’t see it when I look in the mirror, I always seem shocked when I look at photos and videos of my plumpy chunk.  My hope is to get down to a still fluffy, but more fit and confident 200 pounds.  I know I will still tilt the scales, but over 100 pounds to lose is still worth the effort.   I also think that being fat is part of my strategy for keeping people at bay, although I’m not 100% sure how.  I have some ideas, but let me get to that later.

Overall the goal is to add some positives into my life, learn to reconnect with people in my life, reduce some of my self-destructive tendencies and feel more comfortable in my own skin.    I’m still working out exactly what that will entail and I can assure you that in this blog I will encounter many a false start.  My only hope is that I can pick myself up and get back on with the fight.  I will write about a process of changing, even when life gets in the way (because I know for a fact that it will).  I am a work in progress.  I am random.  I am open to suggestion.

That is where I’m beginning.  It is a scratching of the surface for sure, but much like a crust on a creme brulee, now that it’s cracked, we can dig into the luscious, creamy goodness that is delicious and probably bad for you in the long run.  We shall see.

5 days to go before some real changing begins…”

What I didn’t know was how much my life really would change…and for the better.  In fact, January brought me closer with the breath of fresh air that gave me a soul sister named Tere.  She walked into that dance studio and took a SIZEMOLOGY class (which she mentioned in this note).  I encouraged her to dance with me and a TROUPE was born with a performance at the snowy Healthy Living Expo 2010.  Tere is a wonderous tower of power to me.  She’s a Mom of two grown kids who I think are just incredible people.  She’s a foodie, a photographer of amazing talent, a fellow traveler on this self-care road, a woman of depth and hilarity that now I cannot envision my life without.

Then February brought me the most incredible Nineette, a quiet woman with brightly colored hair.  She started taking classes with us and much like the blossoming of a flower I saw her grow as a dancer and allow her petals to open up gradually unleashing a woman of unbelievable sassiness, classiness and fire.  She’s like another sister I never had!  She’s a developing photographer who’s really coming into her own and a woman of great inner strength.  She’s the quiet storm that can tear it all down or cleanse the land so that new growth can happen.

Then I met the insanely amazing, sweet little psycho, Kisa von Teasa who single-handedly got me to realize that I did not have to live my life as a door-mat. I could be strong and self-assured.  I immediately felt she was inevitably going to be someone that I would learn big things from…which I am indeed (but more about that later).  Kisa is a retro-hot, goth-based goddess of burlesque who could take you down with a snap of her fingers.  She’s a kung-fu fighter who’s becoming a sizzle-queen dancer right before my eyes.  She’s a missing spice in my cupboard and now that I know she exists, my dishes will never be the same.

Through Kisa, I met the amazing Angie Collins, who got me to believe in possibility and the ability to shine: “even if you think it’s wrong”.  I took yoga and liked it, I learned that people good exude genuine goodness and light (happy birthday, btw).  I learned that being uptight makes me hard to get to know.  Loosen it up.  Let it go.  Let it be.  The Jim was the first one of us to embrace that vision as he sat behind those drums on Late Night with Jimmy Fallon.  His joy in those videos is contageous.

That philosophy only finally took hold after June brought me through a breakdown which I know lovingly call my BREAKTHROUGH.  While I’m still sorting out how to journey forth, I’ve realized how much one year can change EVERYTHING.  Without the good, the bad, the hope, and despair this year I don’t think I could be where I am now.  I love the women I’ve met through my dance classes who all have a SPECIAL place in my heart and I look forward to seeing each time they walk through those doors.  I’m letting go, and learning more about my life and loving every minute of it.  I’ve found my home with my husband here in Knoxville and feel connected to the pulse of this scruffy little city.  I have a group of friends that I love more than I could ever express and have long-standing friends that I realize are deeply important to me.  I have lost 47 pounds of weight, and found tons of joy.

In the end, happy anniversary to a year of wonder and I am so excited to keep moving forward no matter what the road has ahead.  Oh, and to commemorate this moment, I invite you to enjoy the band that my husband finally got me to actually listen to this weekend: